Relationship Counselling

As each couple is as unique as the individuals who have paired, how I approach their particular difficulties will be different. I always touch on their emotional dance, how they respond to each other and make explicit the pattern that has evolved between them.  With deeper understanding of how this pattern has developed while attuning to deeper emotional statements and needs, possibilities open up to respond in different ways that are more conducive to the underlying yearnings of connection. For some, noticing communication styles that have a destructive force makes a great difference in the tone of their relationship. Criticism or self judgement does not change relationships yet understanding your own and your partners  learned relational patterns and challenging implicit relational  knowing can help couples work on their difficulties.The individuals love language is another way in which couples bring greater awareness to where they are ‘missing’ each other. Working in many eclectic ways on various levels in the relationship broadens the capacity of the couple to move in ways which are freeing and loving at the same time.



Information on Harvard Study ‘Good Relationships’